HELP: “‘My husband has a secret child with his relative”

Anonymous from Umlazi writes: 
I have been married
for 18 years and have three
children. I recently found out
that my husband has a sevenyear-
old child with his relative
who thought I knew. He doesn’t
know that I know about the
child. How do I deal with this?


Sis Naledi answers:
A Keeping secrets and
inability to confront things
in a marriage is a sign of
deep seated problems. Ask him
if what you heard is true, let

him explain himself before you
conclude on hearsay.
If he really has a child with
another woman while he is
with you, that calls for you to
evaluate your marriage and ask
yourself if you want to continue
with someone who does not
value his family.